Flint Divorce Lawyer talks about The Mel Gibson domestic violence case as a classic example of what happens in private from publicly looking responsible people who engage in domestic violence.
BITTER CUSTODY FIGHT, IS THIS AN EXCUSE?
Gibson, 54, and Grigorieva, 40, are now locked in a bitter custody dispute and the superstar facing domestic abuse allegations and the fallout from leaked audiotapes in which Gibson berates and threatens Grigorieva during profane rants. 
On a new recording released today, 07/12/2010, Mel Gibson allegedly threatens to "bury" the mother of his child. Although just one listen and it's clear the actor's digging his own grave.
A source close to the case claims the tapes were recorded in February on the heels of a heated exchange in January. 
WAS MOM SHAKING THE BABY?
Both sides agree they argued in January but differ on what exactly transpired. Grigorieva claims Gibson punched her in the face "more than once," breaking a tooth and knocking out a veneer. Another Gibson source says the actor only "tried to stop [Oskana] from shaking their baby like a ragdoll" during the altercation. 
ANOTHER HOLLYWOOD IDOL IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, MEL IS NOT ALONE.
Charlie Sheen's hearing for domestic violence, which was scheduled to begin today, has been delayed until August 2, 2010 -- just as filming for the new season of Two And A Half Men is due to begin.
IT’S A PATTERN OF BEHAVIOR
Domestic violence ,said Flint Divorce Attorney Terry Bankert ,is a pattern of behavior in
which one intimate partner uses physical violence, coercion,
threats, intimidation, isolation or emotional, sexual
or economic abuse to control the other partner in the
PERSONAL CHOICE, HABIT?
Domestic violence occurs when one household member chooses to use a pattern of physical assaults, threats of violence, and emotional abuse to maintain power and control over another. All 50 states have statutes authorizing courts to issue orders of protection to domestic violence victims. 
IS PPO AN OPTION?
In Michigan, a victim of domestic violence may obtain a personal protection order (PPO) to enjoin abusive behavior. PPOs may enjoin specific actions, such as assaulting, attacking, beating, molesting, stalking, or wounding the petitioner. In addition, they may prohibit entering specific premises, usually including the petitioner’s home and place of employment. They may also prohibit the removal of minor children from the legal custodian, purchasing or possessing a firearm, and any other act that interferes with the petitioner’s personal liberty or that causes a reasonable apprehension of violence. 
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS MORE THAN POOR COUPLES HITTING EACH OTHER
A divorce Attorney points out Domestic violence does not necessarily
involve physical violence and it equally affects all
aspects of our society, rich or poor, regardless of race,
ethnicity, religion or national origin.
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS WIDE SPREAD
Domestic violence is an epidemic. One out of nearly
every three women will be the victim of domestic violence
in her lifetime. Between three and ten million
children are exposed to domestic violence every year
and that exposure has a negative impact on their development.
HOLLYWOOD KEEPS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE QUIET
when it comes to Mel Gibson, who seems to have offended everyone possible with his racist, sexist, anti-Semitic, and outright terrorist rants in the tapes that have been “leaked” to the world over the past week, Hollywood seems to be keeping its usually highly-opinionated mouth closed.
SPOUSES ARE AWARE OF HOW BAD THEIR ACTIONS ARE
The troubled state of his relationship with girlfriend Oksana Grigorieva was not lost on Mel Gibson. "He realized how unhealthy the relationship was and recognized that they were in a bad place and he was getting his buttons pushed," a friend tells 
WHAT ARE EXAMPLES OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
Domestic violence is defined as a pattern of behavior used to establish power and control over another person through fear and intimidation, often including the threat or use of violence. National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, at http://www.ncadv.org. In addition to physical violence, abusers may use many forms of control against their partners, including
isolation from friends and family;
verbal abuse (belittlement, taunting);
intimidation (destroying property, abusing pets, displaying firearms);
economic abuse (controlling access to money, preventing or interfering with employment);
coercion (threatening to commit suicide or to report incidents to protective services);
use of the children (harassment during parenting time, threatening to kidnap the children);
sexual abuse; and
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CAN MOVE FROM SPOUSE TO CHILDREN
Moreover, studies indicate that forty to sixty
percent of men who abuse women also abuse children
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Michigan Family Law ch 18 (Hon. Marilyn J. Kelly et al eds, ICLE 6th ed 2004), at http://www.icle.org/modules/books/chapter.aspx/?lib=family&book=2004553510&chapter=18
(last updated 07/02/2010).